‘You don’t get to name our baby’: Mother-in-law Expects to Have a Say in Her Grandchild’s Name, Despite Not Supporting Her Son and His Wife

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    r/AITAH⚫ 15 hr. ago badab1ngb00m AITA for not wanting to let my MIL give my baby her middle name?
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    My partner and I are having our first baby which will be the first grand baby on both my side and his side. We've been together for over a decade and I've never had any issues with my MIL. She has never checked in on me during my entire pregnancy (due date is literally next week) UNTIL 2 weeks ago when she texted both of us in a group chat asking how I was
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    doing and then slipped in the question of if she could give our baby her middle name/make the baby's middle name her name. My immediate reaction was NO. Considering she hasn't really been involved with the baby/pregnancy so far it mostly Ime off and I thought it was just overall strange for her to even ask that of us.
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    My side of the family has been spoiling the out of the baby already by constantly checking in, getting gifts, and everyone has been super supportive and excited for baby to arrive - especially my mom who has gone above and beyond to help us get ready for baby. I know of course. the relationship with my mom vs. his mom is not comparable but if
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    we were to give the baby a middle name after anyone, I feel it should be my mom based solely off of how much love and support she's shown us and how much she's already done for the baby.
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    My partner doesn't really care what the middle name is but obviously wants to please his mom and doesn't want to me off either. He suggested a middle name that includes both sides so that baby has a piece of both which I agreed to. BUT, the more I think about it the more resentment I have because I just can't see past the fact that his
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    mom hasn't done anything for the baby this entire time. Am I just being entitled?
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    grey-canary ⚫ 13h ago NTA. Is the baby going to have Dad's last name? If so my suggestion... "Appreciate your input, but we have decided we'll give the baby his last name to honor his family, a middle
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    name that honors mine and we picked the first name together." Just because it is the accepted norm doesn't meant the surname doesn't count.
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    Ok-Anxiety5750 • 15h ago NTA. You and your partner should be able to name the baby whatever you want. She can make her own baby if she wants it to have her name
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    | Martha90815 • 14h ago What kind of person ASKS to have their grandchild named after them? So much ick! Also: Naming rights belong ONLY to the parents!
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    • S... 14h ago Edited 12h ago She named HER kids already. She had her turn, Hard pass, aka FK NO. Unless you're a single parent, what you name your baby is a two "yes", one "no" situation, between you and your partner. Fk her. Full stop.
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    2_old_for_this_spit • 13h ago NTA. "MIL, thanks for your input. We've already decided on our baby's name. We'll announce it after she arrives and you'll be among the first to know."
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    BlueGreen 1956 • 15h ago NTA You and your husband should agree on whatever name you want. You don't get to decide and neither does he. You BOTH should agree.
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    Anybody else's input is just background noise. Note: Being a Jr myself, I absolutely wish parents would give their children their own names unattached to any family member.
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    Outside_Holiday_... • 12h ago You're due in 2 weeks. Say "My apologies for not sharing as we haven't heard from you in quite some time. Baby is due in two weeks, we have already chosen the perfect name." And nothing else.
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    I guess be thankful you haven't heard from her in 38 weeks haha.
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    Carolann0308 • 11h ago You name a baby after someone as an honor...not because they insist.
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    The_Bad_Agent • 14h ago ΝΤΑ A GP has no say in a baby name. That's entirely between the parents. And it's absolutely appropriate to make that clear to her. She is out of line, and needs to be put in her proper place.
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    Lazuli Rose • 14h ago NTA. Tell your husband you have thought it over and don't want to give the baby a name from either side. If your MIL wants a baby with her name, she can have another one and name it.

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